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ChaoticDivinity
Escort
42
posts. Member since
May 2023
8th Aug '24 - 11:16AM
SexySuzanne wrote:
Jesus! How to say your not married without saying your not married. If only life were that simple.
I'm here to offer a service, much like a drug dealer, but I would never encourage anyone to use my service as a first resort when it comes to people's marriages.
I'm here to offer a service, much like a drug dealer, but I would never encourage anyone to use my service as a first resort when it comes to people's marriages.
Nowhere in my comment did I say it should be a first resort, I simply said it's better than cheating with a regular person where emotions get involved or stressing the wife out over the problem.
If you see yourself as similar to a drug dealer then you see what you are doing as wrong and illegal. Sex work is neither of those things, sex does not impact anyones health or life in a negative manner. Intimacy is a human need, drugs are not.
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Ab4454aw2
Client
17
posts. Member since
Aug 2024
8th Aug '24 - 11:24AM
ChaoticDivinity wrote:
Jesus! How to say your not married without saying your not married. If only life were that simple.
I'm here to offer a service, much like a drug dealer, but I would never encourage anyone to use my service as a first resort when it comes to people's marriages. [/quote]
Nowhere in my comment did I say it should be a first resort, I simply said it's better than cheating with a regular person where emotions get involved or stressing the wife out over the problem.
If you see yourself as similar to a drug dealer then you see what you are doing as wrong and illegal. Sex work is neither of those things, sex does not impact anyones health or life in a negative manner. Intimacy is a human need, drugs are not.
I'm here to offer a service, much like a drug dealer, but I would never encourage anyone to use my service as a first resort when it comes to people's marriages. [/quote]
Nowhere in my comment did I say it should be a first resort, I simply said it's better than cheating with a regular person where emotions get involved or stressing the wife out over the problem.
If you see yourself as similar to a drug dealer then you see what you are doing as wrong and illegal. Sex work is neither of those things, sex does not impact anyones health or life in a negative manner. Intimacy is a human need, drugs are not.
I'm really trying to convince myself that seeing an escort is not cheating, that it's taking care of a need that my wife doesn't want to do or can't do. Like getting a haircut or something.
There's also the point of expectations, after a hard day at work my wife probably doesn't want to gag on a dick and take a load in the face.
But I guess I'm just trying to sell it to myself that I'm not a bad guy for having desires & fantasies.
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1kentman50
Client
17
posts. Member since
Oct 2023
8th Aug '24 - 11:32AM
Ab4454aw2 wrote:
Jesus! How to say your not married without saying your not married. If only life were that simple.
I'm here to offer a service, much like a drug dealer, but I would never encourage anyone to use my service as a first resort when it comes to people's marriages. [/quote]
I agree definitely not the first resort, I'm in a sexless marriage and it's been over 2 years without sex so it is the last resort now after a lot of thought[/quote]
I'm sorry hun for your situation. Sometimes these things can't be worked out and in thoes circumstances I'm glad there is a service like ours for you.[/quote]
Thank you that's very nice of you to say, I have not yet seen an escort yet but I am planning to as soon as I find someone local and to be honest I am looking forward to it now[/quote]
How did you get on on adultwork using your postcode? Did you find one
I'm here to offer a service, much like a drug dealer, but I would never encourage anyone to use my service as a first resort when it comes to people's marriages. [/quote]
I agree definitely not the first resort, I'm in a sexless marriage and it's been over 2 years without sex so it is the last resort now after a lot of thought[/quote]
I'm sorry hun for your situation. Sometimes these things can't be worked out and in thoes circumstances I'm glad there is a service like ours for you.[/quote]
Thank you that's very nice of you to say, I have not yet seen an escort yet but I am planning to as soon as I find someone local and to be honest I am looking forward to it now[/quote]
How did you get on on adultwork using your postcode? Did you find one
Yes had a look thanks and I have messaged someone on here based in Canterbury
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SexySuzanne
Escort
53
posts. Member since
Apr 2024
8th Aug '24 - 12:19PM
ChaoticDivinity wrote:
Jesus! How to say your not married without saying your not married. If only life were that simple.
I'm here to offer a service, much like a drug dealer, but I would never encourage anyone to use my service as a first resort when it comes to people's marriages. [/quote]
Nowhere in my comment did I say it should be a first resort, I simply said it's better than cheating with a regular person where emotions get involved or stressing the wife out over the problem.
If you see yourself as similar to a drug dealer then you see what you are doing as wrong and illegal. Sex work is neither of those things, sex does not impact anyones health or life in a negative manner. Intimacy is a human need, drugs are not.
I'm here to offer a service, much like a drug dealer, but I would never encourage anyone to use my service as a first resort when it comes to people's marriages. [/quote]
Nowhere in my comment did I say it should be a first resort, I simply said it's better than cheating with a regular person where emotions get involved or stressing the wife out over the problem.
If you see yourself as similar to a drug dealer then you see what you are doing as wrong and illegal. Sex work is neither of those things, sex does not impact anyones health or life in a negative manner. Intimacy is a human need, drugs are not.
Not a direct comparison no. Happy to discuss the simularities with you in private though if you are interested
If you believe that though ♥️ maybe I have a unique perspective in that I'm currently doing a masters in psychology and going on to my doctorate so I have studied human behaviour to extent.
Deb
Escort
39
posts. Member since
Aug 2023
9th Aug '24 - 08:14AM
In answer to the original question, I think roughly half of my clients are married.
Some tell me they feel guilty.
Some of them probably should feel guilty! They should probably be making more of an effort to build a better relationship with their wives. Some of them are entirely selfish and don't realise how hard their women work at home in the family - no wonder she has no energy left for bedroom fun!
But I'm not saying that's all married men.
Some tell me their wives know they are visiting me. Some tell me their wives have medical conditions which is affecting their sex lives. And sometimes, it is the man himself who has a medical condition, and so he wants the hand of a sex expert.
I suppose my message is that it is all different types of men who pay for sexual services. And they are also looking for different things.
If you take a look at my service, you will see that I don't take off my clothes and I only use my hands - some people would be amazed that anyone would pay to see me!
But for some men, I'm offering exactly what they want.
Some of the married men I see like the fact that my service is NOT a "girlfriend" experience.
I suppose I want to tell you that all sorts of men see sex workers for all sorts of reasons, and they seek all sorts of services.
I don't think you should feel guilty about your sexual desires.
It is best if you can work things out and be fully satisfied without lies.
But the needs/ and urges are great. We have just one life. Getting the balance perfect all the time if difficult and perhaps impossible.
Some tell me they feel guilty.
Some of them probably should feel guilty! They should probably be making more of an effort to build a better relationship with their wives. Some of them are entirely selfish and don't realise how hard their women work at home in the family - no wonder she has no energy left for bedroom fun!
But I'm not saying that's all married men.
Some tell me their wives know they are visiting me. Some tell me their wives have medical conditions which is affecting their sex lives. And sometimes, it is the man himself who has a medical condition, and so he wants the hand of a sex expert.
I suppose my message is that it is all different types of men who pay for sexual services. And they are also looking for different things.
If you take a look at my service, you will see that I don't take off my clothes and I only use my hands - some people would be amazed that anyone would pay to see me!
But for some men, I'm offering exactly what they want.
Some of the married men I see like the fact that my service is NOT a "girlfriend" experience.
I suppose I want to tell you that all sorts of men see sex workers for all sorts of reasons, and they seek all sorts of services.
I don't think you should feel guilty about your sexual desires.
It is best if you can work things out and be fully satisfied without lies.
But the needs/ and urges are great. We have just one life. Getting the balance perfect all the time if difficult and perhaps impossible.
Ab4454aw2
Client
17
posts. Member since
Aug 2024
13th Aug '24 - 14:17PM
Deb wrote:
In answer to the original question, I think roughly half of my clients are married.
Some tell me they feel guilty.
Some of them probably should feel guilty! They should probably be making more of an effort to build a better relationship with their wives. Some of them are entirely selfish and don't realise how hard their women work at home in the family - no wonder she has no energy left for bedroom fun!
But I'm not saying that's all married men.
Some tell me their wives know they are visiting me. Some tell me their wives have medical conditions which is affecting their sex lives. And sometimes, it is the man himself who has a medical condition, and so he wants the hand of a sex expert.
I suppose my message is that it is all different types of men who pay for sexual services. And they are also looking for different things.
If you take a look at my service, you will see that I don't take off my clothes and I only use my hands - some people would be amazed that anyone would pay to see me!
But for some men, I'm offering exactly what they want.
Some of the married men I see like the fact that my service is NOT a "girlfriend" experience.
I suppose I want to tell you that all sorts of men see sex workers for all sorts of reasons, and they seek all sorts of services.
I don't think you should feel guilty about your sexual desires.
It is best if you can work things out and be fully satisfied without lies.
But the needs/ and urges are great. We have just one life. Getting the balance perfect all the time if difficult and perhaps impossible.
Some tell me they feel guilty.
Some of them probably should feel guilty! They should probably be making more of an effort to build a better relationship with their wives. Some of them are entirely selfish and don't realise how hard their women work at home in the family - no wonder she has no energy left for bedroom fun!
But I'm not saying that's all married men.
Some tell me their wives know they are visiting me. Some tell me their wives have medical conditions which is affecting their sex lives. And sometimes, it is the man himself who has a medical condition, and so he wants the hand of a sex expert.
I suppose my message is that it is all different types of men who pay for sexual services. And they are also looking for different things.
If you take a look at my service, you will see that I don't take off my clothes and I only use my hands - some people would be amazed that anyone would pay to see me!
But for some men, I'm offering exactly what they want.
Some of the married men I see like the fact that my service is NOT a "girlfriend" experience.
I suppose I want to tell you that all sorts of men see sex workers for all sorts of reasons, and they seek all sorts of services.
I don't think you should feel guilty about your sexual desires.
It is best if you can work things out and be fully satisfied without lies.
But the needs/ and urges are great. We have just one life. Getting the balance perfect all the time if difficult and perhaps impossible.
Thanks for your insight! I'm still weighing up if I'm the kind of guy that sneaks away from his wife for a blowjob. Haven't yet reached a verdict. I can say this I'm getting sick of wanking to porn discreetly when she's gone to bed. I'm bored..desperate to fulfill desires but my conscience is telling me no.
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1kentman50
Client
17
posts. Member since
Oct 2023
16th Aug '24 - 16:14PM
Ab4454aw2 wrote:
[quote=Deb]In answer to the original question, I think roughly half of my clients are married.
Some tell me they feel guilty.
Some of them probably should feel guilty! They should probably be making more of an effort to build a better relationship with their wives. Some of them are entirely selfish and don't realise how hard their women work at home in the family - no wonder she has no energy left for bedroom fun!
But I'm not saying that's all married men.
Some tell me their wives know they are visiting me. Some tell me their wives have medical conditions which is affecting their sex lives. And sometimes, it is the man himself who has a medical condition, and so he wants the hand of a sex expert.
I suppose my message is that it is all different types of men who pay for sexual services. And they are also looking for different things.
If you take a look at my service, you will see that I don't take off my clothes and I only use my hands - some people would be amazed that anyone would pay to see me!
But for some men, I'm offering exactly what they want.
Some of the married men I see like the fact that my service is NOT a "girlfriend" experience.
I suppose I want to tell you that all sorts of men see sex workers for all sorts of reasons, and they seek all sorts of services.
I don't think you should feel guilty about your sexual desires.
It is best if you can work things out and be fully satisfied without lies.
But the needs/ and urges are great. We have just one life. Getting the balance perfect all the time if difficult and perhaps impossible.[/quote]
Thanks for your insight! I'm still weighing up if I'm the kind of guy that sneaks away from his wife for a blowjob. Haven't yet reached a verdict. I can say this I'm getting sick of wanking to porn discreetly when she's gone to bed. I'm bored..desperate to fulfill desires but my conscience is telling me no.
Some tell me they feel guilty.
Some of them probably should feel guilty! They should probably be making more of an effort to build a better relationship with their wives. Some of them are entirely selfish and don't realise how hard their women work at home in the family - no wonder she has no energy left for bedroom fun!
But I'm not saying that's all married men.
Some tell me their wives know they are visiting me. Some tell me their wives have medical conditions which is affecting their sex lives. And sometimes, it is the man himself who has a medical condition, and so he wants the hand of a sex expert.
I suppose my message is that it is all different types of men who pay for sexual services. And they are also looking for different things.
If you take a look at my service, you will see that I don't take off my clothes and I only use my hands - some people would be amazed that anyone would pay to see me!
But for some men, I'm offering exactly what they want.
Some of the married men I see like the fact that my service is NOT a "girlfriend" experience.
I suppose I want to tell you that all sorts of men see sex workers for all sorts of reasons, and they seek all sorts of services.
I don't think you should feel guilty about your sexual desires.
It is best if you can work things out and be fully satisfied without lies.
But the needs/ and urges are great. We have just one life. Getting the balance perfect all the time if difficult and perhaps impossible.[/quote]
Thanks for your insight! I'm still weighing up if I'm the kind of guy that sneaks away from his wife for a blowjob. Haven't yet reached a verdict. I can say this I'm getting sick of wanking to porn discreetly when she's gone to bed. I'm bored..desperate to fulfill desires but my conscience is telling me no.
Getting fed up with wanking aswell and have decided to go for it on Tuesday just hope I haven't forgotten what to do lol
bigddaves1999
Client
4
posts. Member since
Aug 2024
29th Aug '24 - 19:15PM
1kentman50 wrote:
[quote=Ab4454aw2][quote=Deb]In answer to the original question, I think roughly half of my clients are married.
Some tell me they feel guilty.
Some of them probably should feel guilty! They should probably be making more of an effort to build a better relationship with their wives. Some of them are entirely selfish and don't realise how hard their women work at home in the family - no wonder she has no energy left for bedroom fun!
But I'm not saying that's all married men.
Some tell me their wives know they are visiting me. Some tell me their wives have medical conditions which is affecting their sex lives. And sometimes, it is the man himself who has a medical condition, and so he wants the hand of a sex expert.
I suppose my message is that it is all different types of men who pay for sexual services. And they are also looking for different things.
If you take a look at my service, you will see that I don't take off my clothes and I only use my hands - some people would be amazed that anyone would pay to see me!
But for some men, I'm offering exactly what they want.
Some of the married men I see like the fact that my service is NOT a "girlfriend" experience.
I suppose I want to tell you that all sorts of men see sex workers for all sorts of reasons, and they seek all sorts of services.
I don't think you should feel guilty about your sexual desires.
It is best if you can work things out and be fully satisfied without lies.
But the needs/ and urges are great. We have just one life. Getting the balance perfect all the time if difficult and perhaps impossible.[/quote]
Thanks for your insight! I'm still weighing up if I'm the kind of guy that sneaks away from his wife for a blowjob. Haven't yet reached a verdict. I can say this I'm getting sick of wanking to porn discreetly when she's gone to bed. I'm bored..desperate to fulfill desires but my conscience is telling me no.[/quote]
Getting fed up with wanking aswell and have decided to go for it on Tuesday just hope I haven't forgotten what to do lol
Some tell me they feel guilty.
Some of them probably should feel guilty! They should probably be making more of an effort to build a better relationship with their wives. Some of them are entirely selfish and don't realise how hard their women work at home in the family - no wonder she has no energy left for bedroom fun!
But I'm not saying that's all married men.
Some tell me their wives know they are visiting me. Some tell me their wives have medical conditions which is affecting their sex lives. And sometimes, it is the man himself who has a medical condition, and so he wants the hand of a sex expert.
I suppose my message is that it is all different types of men who pay for sexual services. And they are also looking for different things.
If you take a look at my service, you will see that I don't take off my clothes and I only use my hands - some people would be amazed that anyone would pay to see me!
But for some men, I'm offering exactly what they want.
Some of the married men I see like the fact that my service is NOT a "girlfriend" experience.
I suppose I want to tell you that all sorts of men see sex workers for all sorts of reasons, and they seek all sorts of services.
I don't think you should feel guilty about your sexual desires.
It is best if you can work things out and be fully satisfied without lies.
But the needs/ and urges are great. We have just one life. Getting the balance perfect all the time if difficult and perhaps impossible.[/quote]
Thanks for your insight! I'm still weighing up if I'm the kind of guy that sneaks away from his wife for a blowjob. Haven't yet reached a verdict. I can say this I'm getting sick of wanking to porn discreetly when she's gone to bed. I'm bored..desperate to fulfill desires but my conscience is telling me no.[/quote]
Getting fed up with wanking aswell and have decided to go for it on Tuesday just hope I haven't forgotten what to do lol
How did it go?
Dan010186
Client
4
posts. Member since
Sep 2024
4th Sep '24 - 22:20PM
Ab4454aw2 wrote:
Does anyone do it? Do you feel guilty?
I'm in a really happy marriage except sex life wise. The idea of bjs makes my wifes skin crawl and I'm considering using escort services for my needs.
I'm in a really happy marriage except sex life wise. The idea of bjs makes my wifes skin crawl and I'm considering using escort services for my needs.
Hey. Ive been like this for years and using escorts. I love my wife dearly but theres next to no intimacy. A man has his needs.
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Splotberry
Client
2
posts. Member since
Oct 2022
20th Sep '24 - 21:36PM
Evening Ab4454aw2, I am in sympathy with you we haven't had any intimate times in years now partly due to my medical problems. But this doesn't stop me wanting to pleasure her but she doesn't want to know. I have sought the services of Escort girls and it doesn't make any difference how attractive they are I still can't perform but doesn't stop me pleasuring her. I have agreed with myself that there encounters I must take to my grave and this is how I deal with any guilt.
Amd500
Client
4
posts. Member since
Sep 2023
19th Oct '24 - 21:42PM
Been the Mrs over 20 years, like the majority suffered from sexless marriage and general lack of intamcy. Trust me I have tried everything to try and get the spark going but alas it only perked things up for a while.
A few years ago, I decided to use an escort for the first time it wasn't a rushed decision and thought about it long and hard. Since then probably seen around a dozen different escorts and connected with one lady in particular who I see most weeks.
I did feel a bit of guilt I'm not going to lie but the experience of seeing an escorts out weighed this, its got rid of my frustrations at home and in a strange way homelife is pretty good now.
Only you can decide what you feel is best, one peice of advice get a cheap "burner" phone do not use your normal phone in anway.
A few years ago, I decided to use an escort for the first time it wasn't a rushed decision and thought about it long and hard. Since then probably seen around a dozen different escorts and connected with one lady in particular who I see most weeks.
I did feel a bit of guilt I'm not going to lie but the experience of seeing an escorts out weighed this, its got rid of my frustrations at home and in a strange way homelife is pretty good now.
Only you can decide what you feel is best, one peice of advice get a cheap "burner" phone do not use your normal phone in anway.
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LeGrandChien
Client
5
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Jan 2025
27th Jan '25 - 17:42PM
My first post here, but I see I'm in a very similar situation to many of us.
I'm almost 40 years married and other than a few Christmas party kisses, have been faithful to my wife. Our lives were turned upside down after she was diagnosed with bone marrow cancer. She has been through hell and back but is currently in remission, although the disease has taken its toll on her body - bone pain and fatigue being the biggest issues.
Prior to this our sex life was poor, due to her childhood being marred by sexual abuse which I only found out about more than 7 years into the marriage.
Anyway, I'm rambling. The point is, having seen how quickly life can change, I think it made me realise that life is short and unpredictable, and I hate to say this, whilst she was in hospital, I met my first escort. It made me feel alive and excited. I've continued to see escorts fairly regularly, as I feel it keeps me sane.
I could never have an affair with anyone. Emotional ties. Drama. That feels like cheating. And whilst I know I can't claim to be like Clinton and swear "I did not have sex with this woman", the transactional exchange of money for sex works for me.
The hard thing is is not being able to discuss this with anyone, hence my reason for joining this forum.
I'm almost 40 years married and other than a few Christmas party kisses, have been faithful to my wife. Our lives were turned upside down after she was diagnosed with bone marrow cancer. She has been through hell and back but is currently in remission, although the disease has taken its toll on her body - bone pain and fatigue being the biggest issues.
Prior to this our sex life was poor, due to her childhood being marred by sexual abuse which I only found out about more than 7 years into the marriage.
Anyway, I'm rambling. The point is, having seen how quickly life can change, I think it made me realise that life is short and unpredictable, and I hate to say this, whilst she was in hospital, I met my first escort. It made me feel alive and excited. I've continued to see escorts fairly regularly, as I feel it keeps me sane.
I could never have an affair with anyone. Emotional ties. Drama. That feels like cheating. And whilst I know I can't claim to be like Clinton and swear "I did not have sex with this woman", the transactional exchange of money for sex works for me.
The hard thing is is not being able to discuss this with anyone, hence my reason for joining this forum.
blackforwhite12345
Client
1
post. Member since
Feb 2025
7th Feb '25 - 23:00PM
Ab4454aw2 wrote:
Does anyone do it? Do you feel guilty?
I'm in a really happy marriage except sex life wise. The idea of bjs makes my wifes skin crawl and I'm considering using escort services for my needs.
I'm in a really happy marriage except sex life wise. The idea of bjs makes my wifes skin crawl and I'm considering using escort services for my needs.
I am a regular with a married escort who works incall during the day while her husband works. One thing that seems to help us both are boundaries. She never French kisses and I never penetrate.
Ultimately, it's you and your conscience that can decide this for you. But for me, reserving what I consider most intimate for my spouse worked. Best of luck to you in your decision.
woochie
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Jan 2025
14th Feb '25 - 17:26PM
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